How To Cope With Equine Loss

So I'm writing this on day 2 of life without Tara. Or without her physical presence. It’s horrible. After nearly 25 years together it’s bound to be a huge adjustment.

Every horse owner will have a different journey with their horse. You’ll have different aspirations to me. Your horse will be different to Tara.

I feel honoured and always have done that I’ve been able to care for her. I’ve seen my role as her protector, ensuring she has had the food, freedom and quality of life she deserves. (And what all horses deserve).

After several years on livery, some yards good some not so good. I’ve been lucky to buy a property with land. So have been able to ensure she’s been able to do what she likes when she likes. That may seem spoilt! And yes she probably has been, especially compared to some horses. Carrots, pears, and a lot of treats! And a friend recommended "stud muffins" last year, I wondered what the fuss was about. But they’ve not only got natural goodness, they must taste amazing- Tara loved them. So am really pleased she discovered them.

Having no regrets knowing that I did all I possibly could to give her the best life is priceless.

At 31 years old, it’s only in last few weeks she’s started to find earthly life more difficult. A farrier injury 6 weeks ago plays on my mind. I should have stopped it happening. It must have and did make a difference. But as my friends have reminded me, horses will get injuries. I do know that, Tara’s had many over the years. But it doesn’t make it any easier.

I’m a fairly spiritual person, and I do believe in positive thinking. And that we can manifest stuff in our lives. I’m still making sense of Tara’s physical departure. I know her spirit is with me. Her donkey companions seem ok and are supporting me. We’ll support each other. But it’s hard and there’s nothing wrong with that. Horse, person or other animal, if they depart physically, if we’ve truly loved them. Then we will miss them.

Love you forever and beyond Tara.

Suzanne xxxx

PS: If you'd like support on coping with equine bereavement. You can contact either The Blue Cross bereavement helpline or The British Horse Society (Friend at the End service). These are specialist free helplines. And are a valuable resource.